Where do I fit?
There’s no title for me.
A husband who loses his wife is a widower.
A wife who loses her husband is a widow.
A child who loses her parent is an orphan.
What about a parent who loses her child?
I know of no word that identifies a parent who has lost a child to death.
I never noticed this fact until my daughter passed away.
So, I look for an explanation.
Why isn’t there a special name for me?
A woman who lost her daughter.
Widow, widower and orphan say a lot.
They are bridges to understanding someone’s story.
With one word, a person’s relational history and heart are exposed.
The words widow, widower and orphan create respect, empathy and acknowledgment.
These names honor a deep connectedness and then loss.
Is there no title for a parent who loses a child because child loss creates a unique and
Is it because no one word can contain the relationship – the combined joy of having a child
pain of losing a child?
If I created a title, it would reflect a keeper of sorrowful beauty.
A “love keeper” – a holder of love that lives and blossoms forever.
I do find comfort in the fact that whatever the world does or doesn’t call me –
my true identity is
And it always will be.
Wherever my children are.
My forever name is mommy.
A descriptor and gift.
A name reflecting a bond never to be broken.
Although society may not acknowledge my unique loss with a word,
the name mother is tattooed on my heart
for all time.